Today, if I were at Tufts, it would’ve been Spring Fling. Last year on Spring Fling, i got into a terrible fight with one of my best friends. It wasn’t even a fight exactly, we had been fighting for weeks but that day it wasn’t a fight. That day, I was absolutely terrible to her. It’s so hard to admit when you do something wrong, and to take responsibility for something that you deeply regret. It is a skill that I continue to work on. After that, we worked through our issues. It took a long time for both of us to be in a place where we actually accepted the others apology and came back to being best friends. However, I’ve realized that the most amazing friendships are the ones that triumph over strife. I know that her and I will always be best friends because there has never been a fight that we haven’t overcome. She’s one of those invaluable people that I couldn’t be more grateful for.
As I have grown up through grade school and high school, and now almost half way through college, I’ve learned a lot about who my true friends are. I’ve learned that fighting with your friends is normal. That sometimes a fight can benefit a relationship and create a stronger, longer lasting bond. When I’m looking at the aforementioned friendship specifically, I realized that we fought so much because the friendship meant so much to the both of us. I also learned that when your friendship dissolves after one fight, it wasn’t a friendship worth maintaining anyway.
The people you surround yourself with are endlessly important to the way that you live your life. If you care about them, it doesn’t mean you should never fight. It means that you should put just as much energy into making up as you do into fighting. It means that when you see an issue, don’t let it build up into a blow up. I’m so grateful for the friends that I have, and the ones who have stood by me after arguments etc.
It’s not every day that you meet friends that you want to keep forever, but I’m lucky enough to have done so. It took me so long to figure it out. It took numerous fits of panic and sadness when one friend group or another throughout high school didn’t invite me to something, or talked meanly about me or didn’t include me. But between high school and college, I’ve found those people. It doesn’t happen over night, and it’s ever changing. The act of being a real friend however, is one I will be working on for my whole life. If you haven’t found your people yet (your forevers as I call them), don’t worry. It takes time and new experiences, it takes arguments and reconciliations, and it takes courage to put yourself out there and make new friends. Wishing you all the best always!