“Sometimes we need someone to simply be there, not to fix anything or do anything in particular, but just to let us feel we are supported and cared about.” Unknown
I’ve never been someone to go to people for help. I go to my family and my best friend for literally everything I need and avoid entangling others in my issues. However, this week, it was unavoidable for me. I released myself from this ridiculous pact that I have to not be a burden. And the results were beyond my imagination. Almost every single one of my new friends here (who I’ve known less than a week) either brought me a treat, talked to me, hugged me when I needed it, and/or texted to check in. Isn’t that mind boggling?? Like I think Tufts just has the best people! My friends at home sent me reassuring texts and called to make sure I was okay and tell me they were here for me. Even my wonderful family sent beautiful and uplifting messages to me.
I used to think there was basically a currency of loyalty friendship points. I thought that you could only have so many instances where you needed your friends or relied on them before their patience ran out. But then, during a talk the other day, one of the speakers asked us what we would do if a friend needed our help. I would never ever be like “sorry you used up your loyalty points”, but I would be there for them as much as I could. Still, there’s hesitation obviously to make things too much about yourself or to harp on things for what seems like too long, but know that people will do for you what you will do for them. It has taken me so long to learn this lesson and even now I’m extremely nervous about asking too much of people, but it’s like I’m surrounded by a pool of love which is truly invaluable.
Even in the face of this seemingly insurmountable tragedy, I feel hopeful and grateful that I cashed in some loyalty points (so to speak) and got to delight in my friends company near and far.